This is hard work. I really didnt expect it to be this hard and I am struggling a little.
Lila is beatutiful, but she is very unsettled and I am having trouble breastfeeding. I may not be online for a while.
I am sure that it will get better and I know in a couple of weeks I will wonder what I was talking about. For the moment, its tough and I need to concentrate on getting this right and keeping myself together.
If anyone has any settling tips or words of wisdom, can you please pass them on.
Hope all is well out there. I will be back with better news when I can.
vxx
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I'm sure you've already considered this, but can you go and see a professional lactation expert to have them explain exactly what you could do to improve things?
I'm due in November but am pretty worried about the breastfeeding thing. I have a feeling I'm going to be making a lot of such trips.
Hope you both settle down soon...
Mel
I am not a mother but with anything in life, please don't beat yourself up. I don't think anything is ever perfect and works the way it's *supposed* to. You are a beautiful and intelligent woman, let nature take its course. I think in a few weeks is right... :-)
The first few weeks are so hard. I remember with my first daughter, the first 6 weeks were a blur of delight and struggles, and then after 6 weeks things just got easier everyday.
Hope things get better and you both find your way soon. Just know that as each day passes you get closer to the good times!
xx
Without the actual hands on experience yet the only thing that people keep telling me is not to stress because this can effect your milk flow. It might be a little unethical but have you tried topping her up with a little formula just to get her settled. Maybe that is worth a thought. Also have you tried buying a breast pump. I've also been told that if you express inbetween then this also brings your milk on as it increases the demand and makes your milk stronger. The Avent hand pump is probably the best and it also gives you a rest especially if you are having trouble with sore nipples. They say it can give you so much relief expressing and avoids the sore nipples if Lila is not latching on properly. The other thing is to contact the Aust. Breastfeeding association and ask them where their nearest clinic is for a consultation. They are only too willing to help if you need them I've been told. I really want to be able to breast feed too so I've done quite a bit of research so I know where to get the help if I need it (which I'm sure I will). The other tips are just from a close friend who have recently just had a baby and breast fed quite successfully. I'm sure all will work out in the end as long as you are patient. Hope some of this could help! XX
Honey, I hope it all gets easier soon. I've been thinking about you every day! Hope we can have a catch-up soon - I'll give you a call this week. Love your work (especially your early stuff) xxx
Sorry to hear you sounding so flat - hope these other girls have given some advice that really helps.
Take it easy, and we look forward to your return to blogging once everything has settled.
Take care xx
Hope things settle down for you soon - this is a huge change in your life, and it will take some time to get used to everything, and to your new role as a mum. Take care of yourself darl xoxo
It's hard byt it gets so much easier, it really really does. The first 6 weeks of breastfeeding my eldest were bloody hard work (literally, unfortunately), but she ended up feeding til 3 (not everyone's goal I know, but it was wonderful for us).
In a few weeks you'll look back on the haze of the early weeks and marvel over how much easier things are!
Hope things are settling down for you. It is such a difficult time and I hope you are managing to get some sleep. No words of wisdom from me except to say just do what you feel is best for you and your baby. Whatever you feel is right, IS RIGHT.
Take care xx
I hope you are coping better and that things have begun to settle down for you. I'm always here to talk to if you need someone! Take care. XX
This is probably late and Im sure you have things sorted by now...
I had an amazing lactation consultant who described how hard it may be for the first 6 weeks. She said to 'try' to stick with it, she promised it would get better. The best advice she gave though was that mum's health & mental well being was most important. Bub can still get food from another source (of course it wasn't mum's milk, but if worse came to worse...) but if mum is crying and in constant pain and bub isn't getting enough nutrition, then formula really isn't such a bad option.
I got on my high horse about breastfeeding intially. I didnt want formula. But after bub was in Special baby care unit and I simply couldnt feed him, then supplementary feeding saved me in many ways.
Something completely left feild. This was shown to me by a midwife who visited in my 4th week. I had seen movies and booklets on how to get bub to 'latch on'. But I had problems with a lazy, sleepy baby who would fall asleep and fall off the boob.
This woman said the simplest thing "Babe, your boob is like a massive hamburger, how do you expect bub to get his mouth around it? Squeeze it so he can fit it in". Sounds weird I know, but it worked from the second she showed me.
I sincerly hope you feel better soon.
Just checking in to see how you are. Hope things are OK.
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